There is no culture, no gender, no Government, no demographic, no economic status, or education that has not been affected somehow by this conversation and communication epidemic.

It's been my ongoing passion and mission to convey how vitally important the times we live in really are. This is not just mainstream media news and views my friends, this is OH SO much more.  We can talk about that too.  When you join me in this quest to understand, having 'eyes to see, and ears to hear', we can make the BEST of them!

It's time to listen, speak, and speak CLEARLY so that others will be compelled to STOP, listen, and take notice.   We must be trustworthy and clothed in integrity to gain and EARN that respect.

Words are powerful.  The Bible says the power of LIFE and DEATH are in the tongue.  Choose LIFE!


I personally have education, experience, and insight in the following areas and topics:

  • The Single life
  • Married Life
  • Single Motherhood
  • Collaborative Divorce
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Remarried / Blended Family Life
  • Getting through separation even stronger 
  • Marriage reconciliation (after 6 yrs of separation!)
  • Caregiving / Dementia / Developmentally Disabled / Family / Funeral Planning
  • Corporate / Soloprenuer
  • Home Schooling
  • Wellness and Organic Living
  • Essential Oils and Preservative Free Living
  • Acting / Voiceover Work / Tour Guide
  • Salon and Beauty, Manicurist, Boutique stores
  • Communication Course Instructor for court ordered arrestees 
  • Sales / Marketing / Advertising / Copywriter
  • Customer Service / Community Relations
  • Insurance of all kinds
  • Real Estate / Property Mgmt
  • Training and Leadership
  • Ministry Guide / Interviewer
  • Spirituality
  • and BIG Faith in a BIG GOD!!  


For which without Him, I would never have had the wonderful blessings, experience, and success in each.   He's the best LIFE COACH ever! 

But wait, you might say, YOU were separated for SIX years?!!   Yes indeed, I sure was!    

And what do you suppose was the reason?         Yep, communication!  Or lack thereof. 

I am happy to report that my husband Ron and I reconciled in 1999, and have been back together since.  Our 30 yr. wedding anniversary will be coming up in 2019!    God is good!   And thankfully, WE were paying attention! 

SO --- what was the common thread in it all?

And what was I paid to do in every single aspect of my working life?   COMMUNICATE.   

I get energized just thinking about it!   It makes me happy to think you could be too.  






I can help you change your perception of a situation, so that life is filled with hope, joy, vitality, and enthusiasm.

As a copywriter for many years in corporate America, I was known to have exclamation marks in most of my writing, because I simply see inspiration everywhere!   

Carrying the weight of poor or no communication is like a heavy, bulky, suitcase.  You know you need what's in it, but it's just not worth packing and repacking! 

Time to toss the old luggage --- it only gets heavier, more fragile, and less reliable as time goes on.

Not to mention getting exhausted toting around a bunch of clothes and items that could have easily been condensed into functional, beautiful outfits, ready for any occasion, and half the space!

Good communication is the same way.  There is the kind that brings confusion, fatigue, and overload; and there's the kind that is light, genuine, airy, authentically put together, and ready for any time or occasion.     

The only way to really get that, is to be willing first to bring the troubling parts into the light to see better.

This quote from my book says it all:

"We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark, the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light."    ~ Plato

I wrote this book several years ago in 2009, because over the years of my own life, and those of others, time and time again, I could see how the inability to communicate well, and clearly, tragically would split up families, friendships, co-workers, lovers, spouses, and even church members!   

Not a very good example is it? 

Just look at the controversy over our current White House and the inner bickering that goes on. 

Well, life and love, and aging parents would become my priorities for the following 9 years, as well as my own need to step back and recharge. 

It was an honor and with no regrets, that I put my plans on hold.   God's timing though, is always right, and now He wants me doing what I'm told!  

Please consider picking up a copy to keep or give to someone who could use it --  It's not only a great conversation starter for young adults to seniors, it's also good for a small group study, employee packets, or team meetings to make sure everyone is on the same page, and feeling heard.   

Easy read, and the chapters are only 2 or 3 pages, so it's laser-focused, and straight to the point.

I think every Jr. High and High School should discuss the material in it for their students beginning as early as 6th thru 8th grade, what do you think? 

Oh, the relationships that might be saved! 

You can find out more about the content by clicking the blue link here below, or copying and​ pasting it into your browser:  
​https://outskirtspress.com/listentoyou 

This will take you to my author page.  If it takes you to my publisher's site, just type my name in as Cynthia Hayes, and/or the book title Why Should I Listen to YOU?  in the search bar on the Outskirts Press main page.   

I hope it will bless any, and all who read it -- and thank YOU in advance for being part of the solution!

 Areas of Expertise 

For starters, I'm here to help!

My methods are simple.   Together we can examine your perspectives about where you've been, where you are, and where you want to be.  

There are usually thoughts, behaviors, and WORDS that do not serve you, causing frustration about what impression others may be getting of you, and especially if there are issues that never seem to get resolved.  

Does it ever seem like the same 'ole stuff seems to resurface or occur?

There's always a reason! 

With extensive experience in communication, conflict resolution, business and personal relationships, balance and well-being, I have a vast history of client, and personal success in this area.   

Not many can stay in friendship with their past in-laws or family members, but I really have been very fortunate and blessed by them all. 

I believe there is more to it than just a stroke of luck or fluke. I believe we all made an effort to stay calm, approachable, respectful, and kept those lines of communication open, which was important for the kids to see as well.  And no, none of my ex's live in Texas lol! 

Plus, I just love good prayer time with God daily.  He likes when we do random quick self and heart checks on a regular basis, so things don't get bitter or out of hand.

With clients, I call things as I see them and remain neutral, because we're only as healthy as the feedback we get from true friends and professionals who have no agenda, other than to make their clients and friends shine, and be the best they can be. 

Perhaps my upcoming small group webinars or YouTube series will help you get some needed feedback and clarity? 

Individual session availability will vary, depending on the needs and schedules of all.   If you need more info on that, please send me a brief, but detailed inquiry on the Contact Us page.